“Woman is not born; she is made. In her
making, her humanity is destroyed. She becomes a symbol of this, symbol of
that: mother of the earth, slut of the universe; but she never becomes herself
because it is forbidden for her to do so.”
Andrea was quite the radical feminist back
in the 80’s who wore unflattering overalls and thought all sex with men was
rape. I do not all together agree with her on the rape part but I think she was
on to something. Slut shaming, the sexual double standard on crack!
Slut-shaming according to feminism 101 is
the idea of attacking a woman expressing her sexuality in a manner that does
not conform to patriarchal expectations of women.
The slur “slut” is a weapon casually
wielded against females from people of all walks of life. There are many “justifiable
reasons” to be called a slut in a world where toxic masculinity is enabled. A
woman who throws herself around like a rag doll with raging hormones is a slut!
Women are only supposed to engage in coitus if they are in love, married or
procreating because they have been brainwashed by sexist puritanical arseholes
to think enjoying casual sex is a sin!
A woman who
shows some cleavage or leg is a slut! Hell, even veiled women who expose wisps
of hair and glimpses of wrists and ankles are absolute sluts! Ride their camel
toes all over Egypt then burn them all and give their ashes to Poseidon!
The easiest way
to express our multi-dimensional personalities and ever evolving identities is
through clothes because of the obvious; they can be changed! Seeing a fellow
woman show some skin is never a big deal until men are factored in! Sexually
provocative clothing then becomes a woman’s way of saying “I am a naughty
kitten, I secretly want sex but I won’t admit it so I’ll trick you with my
body, you are all welcome to jeer and grope.” We can all conclude that women
are responsible for the actions of lustful creeps! After all, our boobs are
rape bat signals!!
The single
mother, the baby mama, the unwed mother and the divorcée are all sluts! They
dared to fornicate and were punished with pregnancy! They deserve to be scorned
or pitied depending on how they came by their single parenthood. Any woman who
is dumped by a man who abandons his responsibilities as a father is not a
victim of tragic circumstances but a scapegoat for false theology and
mean-spirited ideologies. They are all whores right?
The world always
seems to look better through bloodshot eyes. That is why nothing reeks of the
walk of shame than running into a lady on a sunny but chilly morning in a brief
bandage dress, dishevelled hair and crazy smudged racoon eyes makeup! Those
cheap trashy whores! Instead of the walk of shame, their male counterparts do
the stride of pride. They get smirks instead of looks of disgust. Clearly, there
is one set of sexual rules for males and another unequal condemnatory set for
women.
All women who
have had sex are sluts! In fact, any woman who behaves in a way that a man
doesn’t like is at risk of being slut-shamed. Virgins have been victims of
slut-shaming! Young, nubile women are expected to be beautiful and Sirenic as
well as virginal and chaste. Adhering to either end of the spectrum labels you
negatively. You are a frigid prude for not giving it up or have a bucket fanny
if you do and it doesn’t matter whether his penis is so small because two
thirds of it is shoved into his personality!
You are a slut!
You are also a slut! And her! And them! We are all sluts! Men slut-shame us, we
slut-shame fellow women, they slut-shame themselves! It’s a vicious cycle. So
when do we say enough is enough?
I conclude with this quote from Ferret
Steinmetz to his daughter, telling her I hope you have awesome sex: “You are
not an extension of my will…consensual sex isn’t something that men take from
you; it’s something you give. It doesn’t lessen you to give someone else
pleasure. It doesn’t degrade you to have some of your own. And anyone who
implies otherwise is a man who probably thinks very poorly of women under the
surface.”
